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Friday, March 13, 2009

ICW, What's in the Way?

Right now I really don't feel like anything is in the way that won't be solved with a little patience. Except for maybe the fact that I have to finish out a semester with a class that I won't be needing, now that I've decided to change my major. It just seems pointless and a waste of time, even though I am learning a few interesting things, so I suppose maybe it's not. I guess I would just rather be able to spend that time at home with my family. I guess my credit would be in the way at the moment, since after I graduate I plan to open my own business, but that's a couple of years away, so I do have time to fix it. The only other thing I can think of is the fact that the house we will be moving into in July is still not clean. The previous tenant left a bunch of things behind and left it very dirty. We have been waiting for it to be cleaned out so we can start painting and customizing the house to the way we want it. Sonny thinks we can do a mural in the girls' bedroom, ourselves, but I say we let someone else who draws better do it. On the other hand, it would be nice to put our own personal touch to it and be able to say, "I painted that". For the most part like I said in the beginning, I am loving the way this path is leading and look forward to the surprises around every corner. If anything truly is "in my way" I intend to fix it.

Thursday, March 12, 2009

Changing my major....


I have decided today, even after having a wonderfully stimulating A&P class, that I will be changing my major next semester. I originally started out going for Physical Therapy Assistant, but I am finding that my lack of success in Anatomy is telling me something. I'm doing all the work, the studying and the notes. For some reason or another, however I seem to still fail at the exams. It's not your classic test anxiety, because I have always been good at tests. It's just the plain old simple fact that I'm not interested in it and my poor little overloaded brain is not absorbing the information due to this. This being the main problem, add tricky wording, confusing and out of order notes given in lecture, and pure frustration, it equals failure. Which is ok I guess, I'd rather find out now in my first semester and only waste my time on one class I didn't need, rather than stressing myself out and continuing with 2 more years of wasted time and money. I knew there were a couple of things I would be interested in when I enrolled, and chose to try this one first because of the possibility for financial security I suppose. My other and really, first choice, was to be in childcare or teaching somehow. So, I have decided to change to Early Childhood Development. I can obviously relate to it better, seeing as how I am already a mother, and it will give me the opportunity one day to open my own center or preschool and be my own boss. I like the sounds of that much better:) I think I'll like the psychology of it much better and I can apply what I learn every day at home for practice, what better homework than to come home and do it with your children? This also still gives the financial stability, possibly to a very high level, depending on how far I wanted to go with it. Even though I am technically a failure at one thing, I'm succeeding in finding out what's true to my heart and will make me happy for a lifetime.

Body Odor


So, I did learn something in my Anatomy class this evening, which is the most hated of all the classes I take. Growing up you hear all these myths and different things about what your body does and why. As it turns out there is a scientific explanation to all of them, and some things our bodies do for no apparent reason, or for reasons that really don't do us much good anymore. For example, body odor is not caused just by simply sweating, it's caused by our clothes...I know, I know. The reason why is because our clothes actually trap the bacteria our body is releasing and traps it there, causing the odor. So does this mean that people in nudist colonies never stink? Did you know that when we take a shower we are essentially turning our skin into a base instead of an acid by wiping away all the oil? Our skins oil by the way is made of sebum, which is what lotion is made of, except it's made of sheep's oil...see where I'm going with this? Essentially we are washing away our natural oil and then replacing it with sheep's oil, but this is considered cleaner? Our ceruminous glands produce ear wax in our ears and is meant to keep out dirt of course, but did you know that it also keeps your ear canal pliable and moist? If it were to dry out, your ear would crack and bust your eardrums...hmmm. Again with oil, when we wash our hair we are removing the natural oil and then replace it with a fake one by using some sort of hair product to replace it. Most of the dust in our house is skin cells, so why dust? They're on our body all the time anyway right? As for those functions we have that don't do much, things like goosebumps and eyebrows don't serve much function, but at one time worked very well for cavemen. Goosebumps are meant to raise the hair on your skin and trap heat inside your body. The problem now is, we have evolved enough that we don't have much hair anymore to do any good! Of course this still works for mammals like dogs and cats. Eyebrows? Well, they are supposed to reduce the glare from the sun, like a football player putting black paint under his eyes. True, they probably do help a little, but way back when I'm sure they had unibrows and it worked much better. I know, most of this is ridiculous, but true. My point is that society has told us we have to wear clothes, wash our bodies, and buy all these products that are man made and replace what we just washed off anyway, but with something less healthy. Is this what it has come to? I guess so...wish I could just run naked and never stink, never wash my hair and have healthy shiny hair, not have to put sheep's oil on my skin, and never dust my house again...hmmm can you say Caveman? Still yet, it all makes sense to me!

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Cocaine Peppers


So, apparently our drug force has gotten strong enough that dealers are becoming very creative in their ways of smuggling drugs into the country. Today in Queens, NY some shoppers picked up some Bell peppers from a local grocery store, and when they cut into them, they found baggies of cocaine hidden inside. The thing I find myself asking is how did it come to this that the addiction and market for drugs in our country has become so large, that we have resorted to stuffing it inside food? The only good point of this is that at least they're not just walking across the border with it anymore and are having to go to extra lengths to get it here. This alone
could possibly help slow the business down I suppose. It scares me to think that there could come a day in the not so far future that my children are going to be presented with these things and if it can happen so simply as running across it in a common vegetable, how can I stop it? I guess I can't and it will inevitably be something they deal with. In the meantime, I just hope I can instill in them the importance of how dangerous it really is. I myself have had run in's and personal experiences with watching people I love fall prey to various addictions and it seemed no matter what I did, it wasn't enough to keep them from needing it. I watched my brother deal with it for years with his wife and it finally came close enough to tearing apart their whole family that she seeked the help she needed. As it turned out, it wasn't really an addiction at all, but rather a disorder that is now being treated and she no longer feels the need for the pills she once thought she had to have. In his case, at least the issue was resolved, but what about the people out there who don't have someone to help them through it and are just running the streets high on various things, and lashing out at innocent people. mugging, raping, killing...so many things can happen when you're not in your own brain, when it could, after all, be something that could be fixed. I will always be there for my children the best I can and hope that they don't have to witness some of the things I have had to. I also hope that if they do, they will be strong enough to know how to handle it.

Monday, March 9, 2009

ICW, Where I'd Rather Be...


Right now I would rather be living in my new house with my boyfriend. We already have plans to move into a nice, large farm house in Pleasant Hope in July. At the moment, our schedule involves me in school half the day, him at work all day until 5 oclock. After he gets off work he rushes home, takes a shower, feeds his cats, and then drives out to my house in Walnut Grove. Therefore he doesn't get to sit down until about 7 pm. Lots of driving, packing clothes, packing toys and entertainment, (when I do have the chance to take my kids to his house instead), and lots of time wasted, period. We have good reasons for waiting to move in however. First of all, the house needs a little work, so we will be doing alot of painting! The only plans on that so far is an enchanted forest bedroom theme for my girls. I can't wait to give them something brand new and all their own that's just what they've always wanted. There's also a screened in porch that needs a little repair also. Some of the screens are torn, probably from the wild chickens running around the place, as the last tenant didn't much take care of it. I plan to make this area our escape. I can already see a nice wicker table and chairs facing the east to watch the sunrise. A splash of some crisp white paint won't hurt either. Plants probably, too on stands around the corners, or hanging from the ceiling. Besides all of that, it has a huge fenced in yard that I want to make ready for my kids and the dog to run and play in safely, so I don't have to worry about anybody finding an escape route. The master bedroom owns a beautiful set of French doors that open onto a deck, which of course, also needs a little TLC. It will be a perfect spot for family gatherings and barbecues. Adding a bench or two around the sides for seating will be perfect. So, yes, the place I would rather be right now is living in my remodeled home with my amazingly perfect boyfriend and the best kids in the world. It would make things much easier for him traveling and a much safer, playful environment for my children as well.

"Everything I can see"
In the living room there's a black leather couch and loveseat. Sonny's very large entertainment center matches them nicely, as it's filled with electronics. There are various hangings on the wall from the orient, little quotes and offerings of wisdom for peace and serenity throughout the room. A small fountain quietly churns it's water over and over sitting on the glass and onyx coffee table. In my children's bedroom, as I walk in I am greeted by a large mystical tree hanging over my head across the ceiling, with tiny fairies poking their heads out of the branches, and sitting on toadstools around the base of the room on the walls. A sneaky unicorn lays quietly in the meadow in the background, slightly covered by tall, flowering grasses. The bluish purple sky on one side, slowly blends into nighttime on the other, with twinklying stars and a black pond reflects their beauty. A fat bullfrog sits atop a lily pad, wearing his crown proudly, and watches the fireflies overhead, waiting for one to get too close. This is my favorite room of all in the house.

"Everything I can hear"
Outside in the distance I hear my dog yapping playfully, trying to get the cat to join her, and the kids squealing with laughter. He's too old to play now, 12 to a cat is just about his death bed years. Nonetheless, she keeps trying and he begins to hiss and growl in vain. In the bedroom I hear Sonny playing his Xbox, thankfully a game that I don't mind the music to. It's lulling and peaceful. A game about a brave soul fighting monsters 1000 times his size, just to bring his love of all times back to life, too bad he doesn't know he will die when she is revived. The fountain in my living room rythmically runs through it's water, sounding much like the brook down in the woods out back. Ocassionally a car passes, but we're out in the country, so it's much better than it was in town a few months ago. As I wash dishes listening to all of this, they clank and clatter as I try to stack them just right.

"Textures"
My dishes are smooth and slippery as I stack them, making it hard to keep them from sliding. Under my barefeet, the fuzzy rug keeps them just warm enough and protected from the cold tile floors. They have a bit of a roughness to them, and I don't like walking on them without shoes. Finishing up, I go to the bedroom where the hardwood floors are the real kind. Not the smooth laminated fake ones, but just sanded enough to tell they used to be a real tree. In the living room is where my feet are in heaven. The carpet is the softest I have ever felt.

"Smell"
Blowing in through the open window, I can smell the honeysuckle bushes out front that border my yard and the fresh cut grass from this morning. A crisp clean aroma lingers throughout the house from my cleaning frenzy, slightly like chemicals, but mostly just that clean fresh scent. In the girls room I smell strawberries wafting out of their beds as I make them. The shampoo I use in their baths had pasted itself to the pillows from their wet hair at night. From the living room as I walk down the hallway, the faint remaing scent of what I imagaine an Indian temple would smell like lingers from the insense burned an hour before. It's exotic aroma relaxes me immediately.

"Taste"
Occasionally as I walk through the kitchen I get the smallest hint of garlic on my tongue. I cook alot of pasta and garlic bread, as I had last evening, and it still remains. Stepping outside to watch my children run and play, the honeysuckle bushes replace that pungent garlic with the sweetness of honey. Almost as if I had just eaten a spoonful straight from the jar. This is my favorite.

"Audience"
As I pull into the driveway I detest the thought of having to get out to open the gate every day. But as soon as I do, it's like opening the gateway to the most beautiful place in my world. I pull through and get out again to shut it behind me. Parking closer to the house, I unstrap the kids from their carseats and they immediately run around looking for the first thing they can get into that they probably shouldn't be. My front porch welcomes me with it's tasteful picture window and inviting front entrance. I love this part, opening the door into my living room it reminds me to wind down and relax for a moment from the day. My soft black couches seem to say, come, sit, breathe. As I do so, I reach to the side and light an insense cone. Closing my eyes I enjoy the peacefulness that is so different from the rest of my day. Looking around I remind myself of things that are sometimes forgotten when the rush of life takes over. I read the quotes stitched on the throw pillow under my elbow,"It's never too late to be what you might have been". It reminds me why I have such a hectic life right now, and also why it's going to be worth it. Thinking about school and all it requires, I imagine what life will be when I'm done. As it is right now, I feel like the luckiest woman alive to have such amazing children and a wonderful loving man in my life to support and encourage what I am doing by going through school. It's rough on us all, but we know that the payoff in the end will be worth it. Not only for financial reasons,but for happiness. By having a career I know I will love, it will only add to the beauty in my life already. Getting up I walk into the kitchen to grab a soda from the fridge and hear the laughter of my girls outside, running from the dog as she playfully yaps at them. The cat jumps up on the railing of the deck out back and as I look at it, I can see in my memories the barbecues we'd had before and all my favorite people standing around laughing and talking. My dad in the corner seriously having a discussion with a friend about politics as always, Sonny standing over the grill delicately flipping a steak over, letting it soak up the flavor of the briquets. Seeing myself and my sister in law, giggling about the kids and their antics as they run from tree to tree, counting to ten with one child's eyes covered, is like having an out of body experience. Wake up, I tell myself, stop daydreaming and start thinking about supper. So I search through the freezer and find an array of items. Steaks, chicken, pork chops, and mixed vegetables just don't seem to be right for the beautiful light and airy day that it is. Hot heavy food won't do today, I need something less weighty. Chinese Chicken Salad, that's it. A mix of shredded cabbage greens, chicken, sunflower seeds, bacon bits, crunched up Ramen Noodles and a little red wine vinegar with some chicken bouillion will do. I hear a honking outside, which is the cue as Sonny pulls in for Katy, my oldest, to open the gate for him. I walk to the front window and watch as he pulls in and she securely shuts the gate behind him. Stepping outside, the flavor of sweet honey infiltrates my mouth. I am greeted by a large grin from a very dirty, greasy man. Another hard day at work, he never seems to lose that smile and every time I see it, my worries disappear. Giving the biggest hug I can muster, the previous hours vanish into another time warp, and my day starts over again.

Sunday, March 8, 2009

In Class Writing, His Desk is Messy...and others

"His desk is messy"
George works in a fast paced office that is constantly abuzz with the rustle of papers, clacking of keys and phones ringing off the hook. Seeming like he never has much time to actually sit in the space he calls a desk, George finds it hard to grab 5 minutes here and there, to go through all the memos, deadlines, rough drafts and letters from fans that litter his desktop. Searching his cubicle for one piece he'd written a few days ago, he desperately throws pens over here, ripped open letters there, and a box of paperclips falls to the floor. Bending down to gather the scrambled pieces of metal, his boss steps up behind him, asking for the piece due for the daily column.

"She is mad"
Face beet red, small droplets of sweat started to form on her brow, pursed lips forming a straight line; you could begin to see the thoughts going through her head, before they all came pouring out of her mouth. I had just told my mother that I received my first traffic ticket. Slowly, she turned around and turned her back to me. Taking a few steps away, she asked in a very low demonic sounding voice,How fast were you going?

"It was cold outside"
Climbing out of bed from under the warm security of my comforter, my feet hit the ice cold floor. It normally wasn't quite so shocking, even in the morning, so I knew it had to be a blustery day outside. As I put on my slippers, my dog licked my face, telling me she needed to go out. "ok, ok, I'm coming, girl" I staggered towards my front door, rubbing my eyes and bumping into walls along the way. The handle was ice cold as I reached to twist it. Pulling open the door, a blast of winter air hit me before I even got the glass covered screen door open. Seeing the frost on the outside of it, I moaned; I knew this would be the painful part. I opened it and reached down to get Sadie's chain off the porch and found it frozen there.

In Class Writing, 20 "What If" statements

Got a lot to do today, for one thing, I’m retyping this
freewriting, because it apparently didn’t save.
Gotta do lots of technical stuff, Circuit Clerk for child support,
family services for food stamps, have dinner with my boyfriend, drop my kids
off to their dad. But then I get to
enjoy the weekend!

My screen is really dirty and Bailey says not to use any
glass cleaner, so I guess I gotta get a soft cloth…enjoyed my week at home with
the kids, but ready for a break from them for sure!

20 “What if” statements….

..1. What if this doesn’t save again?

..2. What if I don’t pass my quiz in algebra?

..3. What if I decide to go out tonite after dinner?

..4. What if I don’t get everything done today?

..5. What if Sydney is sick when I pick her up?

..6. What if my brother doesn’t like Sonny tomorrow?

..7. What if my car decides to overheat again!?

..8. What if I find something I don’t like about Sonny?
Doesn’t matter, I love him!

..9. What if he wants to get married?

..10. What if I don’t pass Anatomy and Physiology?

..11. What if I take too many classes in the summer?

..12. .What if I do all of this and it doesn’t pan out in the end?

..13. What if I find something else I wanna do after starting classes for something else?

..14. What if my kids don’t understand having someone in my life?

..15. What if I can’t quit smoking?

..16. What if I can’t live on student loans and child support? How will I have time for work?

..17. What if the repair man didn’t fix my fridge? Will my food be spoiled when I get there?

..18. What if my cat can’t handle being outside because he’s too old?

..19. What if I’m not doing this assignment right?

..20. What if Sonny’s family doesn’t like me?

The Fighter


I love poetry! Sometimes when there's something on my mind and I can't quite put down on paper what I'm thinking, I will go to my favorite book in the house, America's Best Loved Poetry. It's a collaboration of poems from Edgar Allen Poe to unknown authors that never signed their names to their beautiful sonnets. Sometimes those are my favorite ones, maybe because I can try to imagine this unknown person and create a story of their life according to what they are saying in the poem. Granted, sometimes I don't completely understand them either, and I will keep going back and reading those once in a while for some new insight. I will probably post some of those once in a while, just because I like to share some of this with other people who may not otherwise read any poetry. Maybe just the right words can help someone out there once in a while....this is one of those...it makes me think of myself actually and alot of what I have gone through in my life as well.

THE FIGHTER

I fight a battle every day against discouragement and fear,
some foe stands always in my way,
the path ahead is never clear!
I must forever be on guard against the doubts that skulk along,
i get ahead by fighting hard, but fighting keeps my spirit strong.
I hear the croakings of despair,
the dark predictions of the weak,
i find myself pursued by care,
no matter what the end i seek,
my victories are small and few,
it matters not how hard i strive,
each day the fight begins anew,
but fighting keeps my hopes alive.
My dreams are spoiled by circumstance,
my plans wrecked by fate or luck, some hour,
perhaps, will bring my chance, but that hour has never struck,
my progress has been slow and hard,
i've had to climb and crawl and swim,
fighting for every stubborn yard,
but i have kept fighting in trim.
I have to fight my doubts away and be on guard against my fears,
the feeble croaking of dismay has been familiar through the years,
my dearest plans keep going wrong,
events combine to thwart my will,
but fighting keeps my spirit strong,
and i am undefeated still! - S.E Kiser